A completely frivolous question about women’s purses
A Kiwi friend has turned me onto Deadly Ponies and I’m about to plump 400+ euro (about $500 US) on a bag sight unseen. My wife would normally spend about 100 euro each year on a bag but they are usually rubbish and only last a short while. Does anyone have any first hand knowledge of Deadly Ponies? Can anyone recommend something else that is hand made and high quality and somewhat “affordable?”
My wife is mid 40s and mom to two young kids so she needs a big bag to hold all the various shit you have to carry around for kids. External pocket for phone a must. That’s about all I know!
Maybe I’m pickier than your average bear, but I’d think seriously about getting her a gift certificate to someplace that has a wide variety of purses. A purse is something that you carry every single day, and going with someone else’s choice of color or style could be as grating as having to drive a car someone else pick lululemon outlet ed out for you. You might choose a perfectly functional pickup truck when what she wants is a station wagon.
posted by MsMolly at 1:49 PM on July 15, 2013 [42 favorites]
I am a big big fan of most frequently, but you should also look at all the , as they hold quite a bit, and also the is a beautiful silhouette similar to the Mr Fill N Zip.
posted by janey47 at 1:56 PM on July 15, 2013 [1 favorite]
Having witnessed my own wife on her occasional purse hunts, I would seriously suggest you do a gift certificate or, even better, a pre loaded visa card so she tied to a single store can shop multiple places. There simply is no possible chance a mere man will be able to pick out the correct purse. Not gonna happen.
posted by Thorzdad at 1:57 PM on July 15, 2013 [6 favorites]
I echo MsMolly’s caution about buying a purse for your wife. Gift certificate or simply cash in a pretty envelope is a better idea.
posted by Cranberry at 1:58 PM on July 15, 2013
As for color, there are a lot of ways to look at this. You could buy her something that is close to the color of the one it is replacing, you could take a look at her handbags, see what colors she often buys, and get one in the second most common color on the theory that she likes the color and still needs more of it, or you could get her a color that is a good bright contrast that doesn’t match colors she normally wears but instead highlights them. I wear a lot of neutrals so my red bag gets a lot of use.
posted by janey47 at 1:58 PM on July 15, 2013
I have to agree with MsMolly and Thorzdad here. As a woman who has received a not exactly perfect bag from my spouse, it is so much better to let her pick out her own purse than to feel disappointed (and for her to feel bad) because she doesn’t carry it, or for her to be constantly annoyed by some lit lululemon outlet tle detail every day that she does carry it. Purses are really, really personal things.
posted by rabbitrabbit at 2:01 PM on July 15, 2013 [6 favorites]
Yeah, unless she said she wanted you to buy her a purse. I mean this is one step short of buying glasses frames for someone else. You REALLY don’t want to pick the wrong style/color. If I were her, I’d want a gift certificate.
posted by showbiz_liz at 2:04 PM on July 15, 2013
How very sweet o lululemon outlet f you! So, give her a sweet romantic card with a prepaid visa in it and tell her what it is for. Or take her shopping in an urban area if you can, with a nice lunch out, and let her shop.
No one, I mean NO ONE, who knows me would even attempt this task. Partly, it’s one of those . I will know it when I see it . and to your eyes two bags may look the same, but to her eyes t lululemon outlet hey are vastly different.
Also, unless she indicates she wants one more durable, don’t worry about that part, Some of us like a good excuse to buy a new bag. Or two.
posted by batikrose at 2:06 PM on July 15, 2013 [1 favorite]
3rd, let her pick out her own purse. You could buy a plastic kids purse and put the cash or gift card in it. She will be thrilled, I promise.
Think about it for a minute. You want to gift her with a wonderful purse she will carry everyday for at least a few years. She may not like the purse you pick out, but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, so you will never know.
posted by JujuB at 2:07 PM on July 15, 2013 [5 favorites]
Another data point: My grandmother and I adore spendy purses. She’s picked out a few purses for me that fortunately were my taste. One christmas, she decided to expand the trend and pick up a nice coach purse for my mom.
My mom likes to get her purses for 50 bucks from Target or Marshalls.
She feels extraordinarily uncomfortable walking around with something that visibly costs more than 200 dollars.